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Wednesday, November 27, 2013
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Friday, November 22, 2013
Goal Setting Part 9: The What If of Goal Setting
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Last time, I spent time talking about the “which” of goal
setting as it related to identifying which obstacles might keep you from
attaining the goal you have set. This is
all part of looking at the entire process of working towards our goals. Once you’ve identified what obstacles you
might face, then you want to create possible solutions to fall back on, should
those obstacles arise.
In project management, this would be similar to risk
planning. How much time you spend here depends on the probability that the
obstacle will arise, as well as the impact it will have if it does arise. If there’s a high probability that you’ll run
into the obstacle you’ve identified, then you will want to give greater consideration
to planning a solution for it. Let’s say
that you want to take a web design class.
You’ve never studied anything like this subject before, and you’re
concerned that there will be material that you just don’t understand. If that’s the case, then you might begin to
consider your options. You want to spend
time now, not just thinking about the solution, but putting the pieces of it
together. That way, when you’re in the middle of the journey, you don’t have to
stop and try to figure it things out in the heat of the battle or worse, under
the stress of last minute damage control.
In this case, before you sign up for the class, you could do
a number of different things. First, you
could try to convince your friend who designs websites for a living to commit
to helping you with coursework when and if you get stuck. Second, you could ask
the school for a list of appropriate tutors who work with students studying
that curriculum. Then, you could call a couple of them ahead of time to find
out availability, fees, and any other pertinent information. Third, you could ask your instructor to
recommend a few helpful books or reference materials that you could read prior
to the beginning of your class to help you prepare. Fourth, you could get with someone else who’s
already taken the class and ask that person his opinion on the level of
difficulty of the material. That person
could possibly work with you on the material that you might struggle with, or he
might know someone else that could help you out if you get stuck. In this situation, another solution would to take
some type of preliminary or prerequisite course before attending the actual web
design course you listed as your goal.
When you start to examine possible solutions to an obstacle you think you’ll face, you’re on the way to setting yourself up for success, not failure. You will be more confident because you already have solutions in play. You will feel more “in control” of your situation because you’ve thought through it on a deeper level. When you feel like you’re in control, you naturally feel more confident. Think about this proactive process… it’s just like making sure you have the car gassed up and the oil changed before you begin a long road trip. The point is to buy your AAA membership before you even put the key in the ignition! - Stephanie Baker
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Thursday, November 14, 2013
Goal Setting Part 7: The "Which" of Goal Setting
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Last time I talked about planning to acquire resources you
need to complete your goal. Equally
important is discussing which obstacles that you may run into along the way to
successful achievement of said goal.
When you try anything new, the biggest obstacle to your own
achievement is ….well…uhm…er…YOU. Let’s
start there. You are the person trying
to integrate a new behavior change into your routine. Your own brain, however, is wired against
your attempts to change anything. When
we do something repeatedly, it becomes a habit (like eating whatever you want
whenever you want and not caring about the choice involved). Over time, your
brain develops a “memory” of that behavior habit and when you try to change it
or alter it in any way, your brain fights that.
You may be successful a time or two, but then the old habit starts
winning over the new one and you’re right back where you started.
To break an old habit, you need to repeat the new pattern
many times over. Eventually, the old
“memory” that’s associated with that old behavior habit will be overwritten by
the new memory that you’ve now associated with the new behavior habit. It’s a lot more scientific than I’m getting
here, but for purposes of this blog – let’s try to keep it simple. I think it’s important that I address the fact that this is going on in
any attempt to change an existing behavior to something new. When you address that it’s just “not in your
makeup,” you’re not giving yourself an excuse to fail, but rather you’re giving
yourself greater power to succeed in spite of that challenge. As a side note here, exercise actually helps
you in this entire process – whatever the new behavior habit is that you’re
trying to implement, exercising helps your brain in building the new “memory”
that’s associated with it through something called neurogenesis.
There are other obstacles that you may run into along the
way to reaching this new goal. It’s important that you look at your past
performance to determine if there is anything there to give you a clue to what
you may face again that could derail you. What has happened in the past that’s
kept you from being successful in reaching goals? How did you handle it? Were you effective in dealing with that
particular obstacle(s)? What didn’t work
in your effort to overcome it? How might
you approach this obstacle(s) differently this time with a more successful
outcome?
-Stephanie Baker
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